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Writing Ageless Erotica: The Ultimate Midlife Passion

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It is said that the best sex we have ever had has been in our dreams, so why not to put our imagination on paper? Erotica writing is a multi-billion dollar industry today and it has never been a better time to get into the sexy writing game. You might not become as famous as E.L. James, Jane Juska, Joan Price or Erica Jong but you will have a bit of fun, for sure.

Erotica, like any kind of writing, it’s a way of experiencing and sharing amazing journeys and it looks like printing on paper this genre for pleasure and profit is becoming more popular among women in their 50s who prefer leaving that boring writing class for joining their ‘sexy’ local group of writers or online tutorials.

When we think of erotica, we don’t usually link it together with middle-aged women. In fact, it is middle-aged women who are finally liberated to fully experience the sensuous delight of erotica- Kathleen A. Barry, PhD, co-editor of Unmasked: Women Write about Sex and Intimacy After Fifty said-. They have reached the point in their lives when they are no longer encumbered by the risk of pregnancy nor zapped by the physical ramifications of menopause.

The time is ripe: the subcategory with characters in their 40s, 50s and even 60s, is still relatively small but has spawned an active community of enthusiasts for middle-aged ladies want stories that, while fictional, offer accurate portrayals of senior sex.

How to empower your sexual lives through the craft of writing erotica

If you ever played with the idea of writing erotica for seniors but don’t know where to begin you can find some inspiration from the besteseller Ageless Erotica, a steamy anthology of erotic stories and memoir essays written for a mature audience by writers over the age of 50. Edited by senior sex expert and advocate Joan Price, this collection is full of erotica seniors can relate to—embracing the agelessness of sexuality while still encompassing the changes that accompany ageing. Some selections are tender and loving, while others are edgy and kinky. But whether characters are going solo, having spicy sex with partners they love and have loved for decades, or engaging in casual encounters, every story included in these pages aims to arouse and to rejoice in the sensual side of ageing.

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Erotica category covers all kinds of books, including both nonfiction and erotic fiction where sex is described explicitly on the page. It follows the basic rules of writing in that there must be interesting characters and a plot surrounding the sexual elements. The purpose is to get readers off—or at least, to turn them on.

To me, this business of writing sexy characters past midlife is a bigger deal than hair colour – Stella Fosse, author of Aphrodite’s Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica After Midlife said-. It is a battle worth choosing. This is our voice. This is our opportunity to let ourselves and others in on the secret that women past midlife can be vibrant and alive. Not every woman wants to remain sexual past menopause. Some put it down like a burden; others take it up as a victory flag. It changes everything when we put aside stereotypes and pay attention to what we need. When we do, we may decide to continue or even ramp up our sexuality after midlife. We may decide to combine our creativity and sexuality to write erotica in playful exploration, during our wise ripe years.

Aphrodite’s Pen is the first book of its kind for middle-aged and older women wanting to empower their sexual lives through the craft of writing erotica, a celebration of women’s sexuality after midlife. It’s a proper guide for writers and non-writers in which the 60-something Stella Fosse, founder of the popular Elderotica Writers group in San Francisco Bay Area, offers step-by-step instructions for character design, plot development, and accessing the erotic imagination. She also shares her expert advice on creating a writing circle within one’s community and gives useful tips for getting published or reading one’s work in public.

Will you be signing up for some ‘sexy’ classes? We might just be tempted!

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