I had set myself a goal to change my life by the time I turned 40. I wanted to enter this stage of life with a new me, new mindset, new lifestyle – basically new everything – and I did. I had always dreamt of celebrating my 40th in Paris – all by myself, so I booked my ticket and went. I felt reborn.
The thing is, up until my 40th, my focus had been raising my daughter, living to work and going on autopilot, but I had set myself an intention about starting to live my life the way I want to, putting myself first and doing whatever made me happy. Turning 40 was a big deal for me. I had finally got my life back – motherhood came second and me being a priority in my own life came first. It’s what I call ‘The Blissful Forties’ as that is what it is for me. I believe that is a great time to slow down, re-explore our values, create a clear vision, step into a greater purpose and fulfil those deferred or unspoken dreams and desires – by re-organising, re-assessing, and re-defining our lives.
Since entering my 40’s, I have literally done a 360 change of my life, my friend says “I am orbiting” – I am continuously changing, growing and evolving.
I now live my dream life, a life I once envisioned for myself, but at times doubted would happen. I had an arranged marriage that lasted one year; I got pregnant and got divorced before I had my baby. My mother got ovarian cancer and fought for her life for three years until she passed away. Our family fell apart, my father got re-married and my brothers moved abroad. Six months later I decided to move on with my life and focus on me and my daughter – so we moved to London from Norway. The move happened out of the blue, it was quite spontaneous to say the least. I had neither family nor friends in the UK – so I knew I would be on my own, which was a risk I was willing to take.
The truth is, when it’s time for something new, you will feel it. You will feel a desire to let go, to shed layers, to move, to re-create. You will know because there will be subtle shifts all around you. You will release the old because you are really clearing the path for what’s ahead. Trust the process.
I now love living a slow, simple and intentional life – in-sync with the seasons and I love being organised. It fulfils a great need in me – for order, peace and calm. I shall always make time to live, rest, spend quality time with myself, tidy up, put things away, tidy loose ends, keep tasks up-to-date, de-clutter, use things up, make space, organise my surroundings and generally have my home and life ‘exactly’ the way I want it to be. That is a promise to myself.
My biggest lesson has been to keep going even when you feel like quitting – I actually have my favourite quote tattooed on my wrist as a gentle reminder: “Trust your Journey!“