Feeling Stuck After 50? Midlife Circles Could Be the Missing Link

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Midlife can be a sacred turning point — a threshold moment that marks a transition not just in age, but in perspective, purpose, and identity. It’s a time of awakening to what truly matters, of rediscovering forgotten passions, and of reinventing what it means to live well.

But for many women, this season is also marked by silent, often unseen struggles — the grief that accompanies change, the weight of responsibilities that go unnoticed, and the quiet, persistent ache of feeling disconnected from others and even from ourselves.

As we navigate the layered and often complex midlife journey, one truth becomes undeniably clear: we were never meant to do this alone. The notion that we must figure everything out in isolation is not only unrealistic — it’s harmful.

In truth, the essence of well-being in midlife lies not just in personal wellness routines, but in being deeply connected to others — in having a circle of community that understands, affirms, and walks beside us.

At the heart of lasting, soul-deep well-being is community. Not just a collection of acquaintances or a bustling social calendar, but an intentional, soul-led circle that holds us in all our becoming. In these consciously cultivated spaces, we are offered the rare and sacred opportunity to speak our truths without fear, to be witnessed in our ongoing transformation, and to feel truly seen, heard, and celebrated — just as we are.

Why We Need Midlife Circles

Traditional wellness advice tends to focus heavily on self-care — warm bubble baths, nutrient-rich meals, regular movement and mindfulness practices. These are all beautiful and beneficial, but they can fall short if they are practiced in isolation. Without meaningful human connection, self-care can begin to feel like another item on an endless to-do list.

What many women in midlife are truly craving goes beyond the surface. We are yearning for authenticity. We are seeking spaces where vulnerability is welcomed, where depth is the norm, and where we don’t have to perform, explain, or pretend to be anything other than who we really are. This is what midlife circles offer.

Community provides what individual practices often cannot:

• Belonging – A space where you can exhale and say, “me too,” instead of wondering, “what’s wrong with me?”
• Reflection – When we hear others speak their truths, we often gain clarity and insight into our own experiences.
• Support – A net that gently catches us when life feels too heavy to carry on our own.
• Inspiration – When we witness other women rising and thriving, we’re reminded that we can rise too — even from our lowest places.

Key Types of Midlife Circles and Community Groups

Around the world, vibrant communities are emerging to support midlife women in deep and impactful ways. Many of these groups offer both online and regular in-person gatherings, meaningful networking, and growth-focused workshops, emphasizing open sharing, guided meditation, self-compassion, and actionable steps for personal growth. 

Some circles are tailored to specific interests or circumstances, such as women navigating divorce, menopause, wellness, or professional transitions. Multi-generational circles also exist, allowing women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond to share wisdom and support across age groups.

Platforms like Meetup host numerous groups under themes like “Midlife Reinvention” or “Over 50s” with thousands of members globally. For example: “Midlife Reinvention For Women” groups have over 13,000 members across 42 groups, with some of the largest circles based in London, Fort Collins, Boulder, and Minneapolis.

“Women Over 50 groups” have nearly 4,000 members in 12 groups, with active circles in cities like Birmingham, Nottingham, Manchester, and London.

Here are some inspiring examples in the UK and USA that are fostering powerful connection and transformation:

• Birmingham Over 50’s – Birmingham, UK

Lead by Leslene Smith, this group offers a welcoming environment for those over 50 in Birmingham and across the West Midlands.

Understanding that meeting new people can sometimes feel intimidating, the group offers a range of social options, from casual coffee meetups with just a few members to larger social events. Most attendees arrive alone, but the group ensures that everyone feels comfortable and included. The atmosphere is built around humour, laughter, friendliness, and acceptance.

With a focus on expanding horizons and exploring new interests, the group encourages all members to take an active role. Anyone is welcome to organize an event, fostering a truly collaborative and engaging environment.

• The 45+ Girl Friends Club – London, UK

The 45+ Girl Friends Club is a warm, women-only social group created for women aged 45 and over who are looking to expand their circle of female friendships.

Based in London, this group offers a relaxed and supportive environment where members can enjoy meaningful connection, shared experiences, and plenty of fun, organizing  a variety of activities including casual drinks and chats, dinners, arts events, festivals, weekend getaways, and cozy evenings at members’ homes with wine and movies.

• Over 50s Women’s Dinner and Social Club – Hove, UK

The Over 50s Women’s Dinner and Social Club is a lively and inclusive group for women aged 50 and over who enjoy connecting through good conversation, great food, and shared cultural experiences. Based in Hove and founded in 2019, the group has grown into a vibrant community of women from diverse backgrounds who come together to make the most of life after 50.

Regular meetups include everything from coffee mornings and evening drinks to group dinners, theatre outings, and arts events. The atmosphere is relaxed, friendly, and welcoming — ideal for those looking to build new friendships and enjoy meaningful social time in a supportive setting.

• NYC Active 40’S & 50’S+ – New York, NY

If you are like me and some of my friends that are in our 40’s, 50’s, 60s, but don’t act, live an active life then this group is for you. They meet at lounges and rooftops, go to wine tastings, go dancing, go to shows, museums, etc. while meeting others we can socialize with.

The main reason why people join this group is they never feel alone. From the first day you come to one of their event, they make sure you meet as many members as possible.

• Walnut Creek Girlfriends 40-50s – Walnut Creek, CA

Organized by Carol Keane and focused on building genuine friendships among women in their 40s and 50s, this group offers a welcoming space for connection, laughter, and community.

With a wide range of social events — from dinners and coffee meetups to outdoor activities and cultural outings — members have plenty of opportunities to bond over shared interests and experiences. Whether you’re new to the area or simply looking to expand your circle, the group provides a supportive environment for lasting connections.

• Ms. Midlife Professional – Fort Collins, CO

Designed for midlife women ready to reconnect with themselves beyond roles of caregiver or career woman, this group (organized by Brenda Ridgley) empowers members to rediscover their individuality and purpose.

It’s a supportive space for entrepreneurs and professionals seeking personal growth, meaningful conversation, and community engagement. Events range from networking and workshops to informal meetups, offering a blend of inspiration and connection for women navigating this transformative stage of life.

• Finding Female Friends >50® – Washington, DC

This all-volunteer group is dedicated to helping women over 50 build meaningful friendships and rediscover the joy of social connection. With a welcoming, low-pressure approach, the group hosts a variety of events — from casual coffee meetups to more structured outings — all designed to bring like-minded women together.

Whether you’re new to the area or simply looking to expand your circle, this group offers a warm and friendly space to connect, share interests, and enjoy life in great company.

• Bolder Women – Boulder, CO

Bolder Women is a dynamic group for midlife women who are ready to embrace change, chase new dreams, and step into the boldest version of themselves. Organized by Terra Goeres Ramachandran, it’s focused on personal development and empowerment, the group offers events and gatherings that inspire growth, connection, and courage.

Whether you’re navigating a transition or seeking deeper purpose, Bolder Women provides a supportive space to explore what’s next alongside a community of like-minded women.

Practical Ways to Build Your Own Midlife Circle

Not everyone has access to an existing community — and that’s okay. You can build your own midlife circle, too. And guess what? You don’t need a large platform or perfect plan to begin. All it takes is a little intention and a willingness to reach out.

• Step 1: Begin with Intentionality

Decide what kind of circle would nourish your soul. Do you want a book club with real talk? A wellness accountability group? A monthly potluck with depth and laughter? Begin by naming the kind of space you want to create.

• Step 2: Invite from the Heart

Consider who in your life might be quietly longing for the same thing. You only need a small handful — 3 to 5 women is more than enough to start something sacred.

• Step 3: Set the Sacred Container

Choose a regular day and time to meet, whether online or in person. Create agreements together — like confidentiality, non-judgement, and deep listening — so that everyone feels safe to share.

• Step 4: Keep It Soulful, Not Performative

You’re not gathering to impress one another — you’re gathering to express what’s true. Share openly. Listen with presence. Honour the silences, too — they speak volumes.

• Step 5: Spread the word online

If you’re inspired to create your own midlife circle or social group, a great first step is to spread the word online. Sharing your vision digitally helps you reach like-minded women who may be quietly looking for the same kind of connection and community.

Start by posting in relevant local Facebook groups, neighbourhood apps like Nextdoor, or community boards that cater to women 40+. You can also use platforms like Meetup or Eventbrite to set up your first gathering. Be clear about your intention — whether it’s deep conversation, fun outings, or personal growth — so the right people can find you.

From Midlife Isolation to Intimacy

As a professional midlife lifestyle coach I’ve build mine, too. The Midlife Circle is an intimate and intentional space for midlife women to come together: it blends soulful sisterhood with practical support for real-life reinvention. We meet monthly — virtually and in person — in Bedford (UK) to talk openly about the five pillars of a fulfilling midlife: Well-being, Identity, Relationships, Career/Finances, and Lifestyle. It’s a safe space for reflection, connection, and expansion. We don’t do small talk — we do soul talk.

Midlife is not the end — it’s a new beginning. Your next chapter doesn’t have to feel disconnected. Let it be deeply connected. Let it be intentional, soulful, and wildly authentic. Let it be a circle.