Finding your voice in midlife and speaking your truth in a world filled with noise and conflicting opinions might be challenging, but it’s a powerful act of self-expression and a great asset against ageism.
It’s about discovering what sets you apart and staying true to your beliefs. And what better time than this? This stage of life often brings a sense of self-reflection and a desire for authenticity.
When you have the courage to speak up, you empower yourself and inspire others to embrace their own voices. When you speak your truth, you create connections with others who resonate with your message. Your words have the power to make a difference, to spark change, and to create a ripple effect that reaches far beyond what you could ever imagine.
So how can you find your voice?
Fearne Cotton, a British TV presenter, radio broadcaster and author of the Sunday Times bestseller ‘Speak Your Truth‘ explains that the answer “doesn’t always form in a clear – this is my truth sentence,” but that it’s part of a process to find the root of what makes you YOU. “No human is going to stay set in what they believe forever. Who knows what will happen next”, she says.
Speaking our truth doesn’t mean imposing our beliefs on others, but rather sharing our authentic selves and experiences.
It starts with self-awareness and a deep dive into our core values. It involves listening to our intuition and trusting our instincts. It means finding the courage to break free from societal expectations and embracing that woman in the middle.
In order to tap into our intuition and learn to speak our truth, however, it is essential to embrace the journey of trial and error. Fearne explains in her book some of the things you can do to help try to discover what your happy place is. Meditation, yoga, and walking come into the equation, as well as looking back to your childhood to discover what it meant to have fun in the past.
How can we be certain that we are speaking the truth?
Speaking openly and honestly can be challenging at times, I know this as a fact.
Being a journalist and an entrepreneur at the same time has forced me to step out of my comfort zone several times. However, I soon realised that self-doubt and the fear of saying the wrong thing often hinder our ability to express ourselves and embrace new opportunities.
In the end, the point here is to be real, not right.
I can tell you from my experience, that despite several self-help books, there are no right or wrong ways to tap into your authentic self. You’ll simply realise you are on the right track when you feel your intuition wholeheartedly supporting your choice. You will experience a sense of expansion rather than restriction and feel drawn towards your decision rather than feeling pushed. You will find joy in the struggle rather than despising it.
Speaking your truth is not always going to be easy, sometimes you might need to experience some form of solitude – but it will be worth it.
It’s a journey of self-discovery and it takes time to practise. It requires introspection, reflection, and a willingness to embrace vulnerability. It’s about finding the unique combination of values, experiences, and perspectives that shape your perspective on the world.
What we often forget, our truth might manifest itself in various ways: we can express it not only verbally, but also through journaling, meditation, or engaging in any form of artistic expression and spiritual prayer.
So, don’t miss the chance to find your inner voice. As the pop star Madonna once said: “A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.”
Midlife is a time for figuring out who you’ve been, who you are, and who you are becoming. Get ready to remove those old noises in the background and embrace your authenticity unapologetically.